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A lot of our guests at Spencer’s have had questions about how to use a butt plug, which is one of the most popular sex toys around. We’re here to answer your questions about this unisex toy that’s great for beginners and those who are already fans of anal play. Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to select a butt plug, why you need lube, and how to use your desired butt plug for your pleasure.

1. Flared Base? CHECK

A butt plug has a flared base, so it will stay in place and not get “lost.” Just remember: Anything with a flared base is safe for anal play! This is a crucial step so we will repeat it: You should only use toys with a flared base for anal play. In addition to a flared base, you may want to look for butt plugs that are three or four inches rather than larger ones to get used to the sensation. There are also anal training kits with multiple butt plugs in different sizes. These can help you start small and graduate to a bigger plug over time.

2. Ready, set, LUBRICATE!

Make sure you use lube with your butt plug. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. In order to avoid discomfort, you must lubricate your plug. You can lube up the entire plug before inserting it, and also lubricate the anal entrance. There are even specially designed anal lubes that are thicker than other types of lube to make insertion even easier.

3. Start Small

Find the most comfortable position for you, which could be on your back, on your side, or on all fours. You should be able to reach your anus and be comfortable. You may want additional pillows to support you and make the process as enjoyable as possible. To begin the process of using a butt plug, we suggest that you begin by stroking your anal opening with a finger. You can insert one lubed-up finger, then two, and gradually get used to the sensation. Then when you think you’re ready, wash your hands, then start using your small butt plug. You can experiment with yourself (or a partner) with anal penetration prior to actually inserting the plug.

4. Take Your Time!

It’s important that you don’t rush the process! Go slowly, and make sure you like the sensation of fullness and that you’re in the most comfortable position. If it starts to hurt, take a break and regroup. You may want to revisit step three just to make sure you’re ready. Anal pleasure is your goal, and if anything detracts from that, you can make an adjustment so that you can fully enjoy the experience.

5. Success Feels Wonderful

Once you’ve successfully inserted the butt plug, there are various ways to take advantage of this exciting sensation. You can have intercourse or engage in other sexual activities such as oral sex or manual stimulation. If you’re into BDSM, you can try receiving a spanking while the butt plug is inside you. If you just want to enjoy the feeling of fullness, you don’t have to do anything at all. Simply experiment with the plug by moving it around or twisting it slightly.

6. Butt Plug Removal

Removing your butt plug carefully is an important part of the process. Just as you have to move slowly and gently when inserting a butt plug, you also have to take your time when removing it. Even if you’re finished with it, you don’t want to yank it out as this could potentially tear the delicate skin in this area.

To remove your butt plug, find a comfortable position, relax your muscles, and gently take hold of the flared base. Then slowly ease it out, while remembering to breathe normally. If you feel that you may need a little more lube to help with the removal, you can add it at the beginning. The process should take less than a minute, but again, it’s important to be slow and steady when removing it. Then immediately take the butt plug into the bathroom or nearest sink for cleanup.

7. Clean Up, Clean Up!

Make sure that you clean your butt plug as instructed when you’re finished using it. Here’s some vital information on how to clean your butt plug: Thoroughly wash your butt plug with warm water and a cleaner such as a sex toy cleaner or soap and hot water after every use. This is crucial to remove any lubricant and organic matter and to protect your sexual health. If you don’t thoroughly clean your butt plug prior to putting it away, bacteria could remain on its surface. When your butt plug has been completely cleaned and dried, wrap it in a dry cloth and store it in a cool, dry place until you’re ready to use it again. Proper sex toy care and storage are crucial to ensuring your plug’s longevity.

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