Want to make sure you’re living your best life in the bedroom? These sex bucket list ideas will help you improve your sex life and experiment in ways that leave no erotic adventure unexplored. Look through this list of ways to amplify your sexual thrills and decide which ones you want to try next!
1. Have a Threesome
Admit it—you’ve fantasized about having a threesome at some point, right? Threesomes are one of the most common sexual fantasies. Whether it’s about sharing your partner with another person, three horny people who want to maximize their pleasure, or simply adding a new twist to your sex life, a threesome can be a powerful experience. As long as everyone involved knows what the others’ expectations are, a threesome is an exciting way to explore non-monogamy and add some extra intimacy to your sex life.
2. Try Shower Sex
Showers aren’t just for getting clean; you can also get dirty in them! Join your partner for a shower quickie while the water stays hot. You can bring a waterproof vibrator or another waterproof toy with you to amp up the fun. Shower sex is especially great for those who live with roommates or family and need a little privacy.
3. Try Bondage
Bondage, the practice of being restrained, can be very arousing, whether you’re holding down your partner’s wrists, wearing a blindfold, or are tied to your bed and shackled in with handcuffs and ankle cuffs. You don’t have to be into all things BDSM to enjoy light bondage. There are many simple ways to experiment safely and easily with bondage. Have your partner lock a pair of furry handcuffs around your wrists and see how it feels—then try it on them. For more ideas, see our Beginner’s Guide to Bondage.
4. Visit a Sex Club
Sex clubs offer you a chance to be an exhibitionist, voyeur, or anything else you desire. While they may sound like wild free-for-alls, most sex clubs have rules designed to protect their guests. You can look them up online and get a feel for how they’re run before attending. If you go to a sex club with a partner or partners, make sure you discuss your boundaries ahead of time. Maybe one of you wants to watch, and one of you wants to participate. You could decide to just watch the first time, or see how things go.
5. Use a Sex Toy
There’s a whole wide world of sex toys out there, from vibrators to dildos to butt plugs and nipple clamps, kinky bondage implements like ball gags and so much more. Everyone will have their own favorites, and within these categories, there’s lots of variety, such as clitoral vibrators, rabbit vibrators and G-spot vibrators. Sex toys can be used on your own or with a partner and can provide sensations that take your sexual pleasure into the stratosphere.
6. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty is a wonderful way to transition out of your everyday life and into a world of fantasy. Maybe you want try a roleplaying scenario, or simply say all those dirty thoughts you think about when you’re alone. If you’re not sure how to get started, simply give your partner a sexual compliment while you’re in bed, and build from there. Tell them what you’d like them to do next, or share a sexual fantasy you’ve had. You’ll quickly get a sense of their reaction and can take your dirty talk in a direction that turns both of you on.
7. Have Anal Sex
Anal sex can entail any kind of anal play, from manual penetration to using a butt plug or anal vibrator, to rimming to anal intercourse. One of the most important things to know about anal sex is that the anus isn’t self-lubricating. This means you will need to use lubricant (anal lubes are specifically formulated to be long-lasting). Another important note is that going slowly is key. You shouldn’t be in a rush to get a finger, sex toy, or penis inside you as quickly as possible. Enjoy the experience! Because the anal canal is so sensitive, even a light stroking of the outside of the anus, or inserting a small finger or toy, can feel amazing.
8. Play a Sex Game
If you know you want to do something to perk up your sex life, but aren’t quite sure what, playing a sex game with your partner is a fun and easy way to add that special mojo. Whether you try the popular Behind Closed Doors game, a series of dares, or a game that involves stripping down to your birthday suit, you’ll both come out winners!
9. Film Yourself Having Sex
Curious about what it’s like to watch yourself in the act? Want to live out your porn-star fantasies? Set up your phone on a tripod, find a great angle, and get busy! You’ll bond with your partner when you watch your video and can relive the moment again and again.
10. Have Sex Outdoors
Who says the best sex has to happen in the bedroom? The great outdoors offers you plenty of exciting places to get it on. While you want to be sure you aren’t going to get in trouble with the law, or get sunburned in an inconvenient location, a discreet location or a nude beach can be a way to add a whole new element to your sex life.
Whether or not you’ve done theater before, you can easily slip into character in the bedroom when you try out erotic role-playing. Maybe you can to be teacher/student, boss/employee, or any other set of roles. Roleplaying is a perfect way to get out of your everyday mindset and spice up your sex life. You can take inspiration from your favorite films, TV shows, or everyday scenarios. Whatever you choose, you’ll be stepping out of your routine and into a whole new sensual world where anything goes!
12. Use Hot Wax
Hot wax play involves using a specially designed candle to pour the wax onto the skin as part of kinky temperature play. For some people, feeling the hot wax, which quickly cools once it drips from the candle, is an arousing sensation. It’s important to make sure you’re not using a regular candle and that you only pour the wax onto safe body parts. Never pour the wax inside the body.
13. Engage in Nipple Play
Many people of all genders enjoy nipple stimulation, also known as nipple play. Nipple play can include everything from licking, stroking, kissing, sucking, biting, pinching, twisting or tickling of the nipples, or the use of a sex toy such as nipple clamps. Not everyone’s nipples have the same degree of sensitivity, so for some people, a light touch is more than enough, and for others, the more intense, the better. To see if nipple play is for you, start off with a gentle touch and move on if you enjoy it.
14. Have Sex with a Stranger
If you’re single and ready to mingle, why not go for a hookup? You don’t have to know their name or anything about them to know that you fit together perfectly between the sheets. Maybe you’re traveling and only in town for one night, or maybe you met that someone you don’t want to date but they set off all your buttons.
15. Wear a Butt Plug
Want to explore anal sex but don’t know where to start? A beginner butt plug of three or four inches along with some lube is all you need to get started! You can wear a butt plug on your own or with a partner. They can be used as bedroom sex toys or worn under your clothes while you’re out on a date. Make sure you go slowly and use plenty of anal lube, and you’ll be ready to discover the excitement of backdoor play! Want a slightly different sensation? Try anal beads, where the insertion of each bead will feel more and more thrilling.
16. Share Your Sexual Fantasies
You may have a whole secret sex life…in your head. If you conjure up elaborate sexual fantasies that get you in the mood, you may want to share one or two of your juiciest ones with a partner. You can spin an erotic story or simply whisper in their ear exactly what scenario turns you on. Trade off sharing your fantasies and you just may learn something fascinating about your favorite person.
17. Have Multiple Orgasms
Why settle for one big O when you could have multiple? While some people need a longer recovery time, for others, their body is primed to enjoy more orgasms. You don’t have to go again immediately after you finish (though if you’re up for it, go for it!), but you can pause, refresh, and return to sex and keep on going. See what your body’s capable of and double (or triple!) your pleasure.
18. Give or Get a Spanking
If you’re curious about BDSM, and perhaps tried bondage and want to add a new element of kinky play, spanking is a great place to start. You don’t need any equipment other than your hand, though you can add varying sensations with spanking implements such as a spanking paddle or other impact toys.
19. Try a New Sex Position
We’ve all been there—you get so used to your favorite sex position that you forget to mix it up. Well, good news—there are dozens of amazing sex positions you can try to change up your game. Whether that involves sex on the floor, against the wall, in bed, or elsewhere in your house, there’s always room to experiment. You might discover a new position that drives you wild!
20. Have Sex in the Car
Road trip, anyone? While a car may not seem to be the ideal setting for humping, there’s still something exciting about doing it in the car. Maybe you’re parked in front of your building and want to have a quick grope session in the backseat, or perhaps you need a break from a long day of driving and see a perfectly secluded road. There’s a lot you can do in a backseat (or, if you’re flexible, a front seat), whether giving each other hand jobs or oral sex, or full-on intercourse.
21. Give or Get a Lap Dance
Show off your dancing skills and turn on your partner when you give them a lap dance, or get an eyeful when you have them give you one. You don’t have to have stripper-style moves in order to give a good lap dance. Just put on some sexy music and shake your thang! If you get really into it and want to up the ante on your sexy movements, you can install a stripper pole, practice spinning around, and then show off your most sultry moves. Trust us—your partner is going to love whatever show you put on!
22. Have Strap-On Sex
Using a strap-on dildo can be a way to embrace a new side of your sexuality. For some couples, strap-on sex—especially what’s known as bend over boyfriend, where typically a woman wears a strap-on and penetrates a man anally—is a chance to explore new sexual roles. The strap-on wearer can discover the excitement of owning their erotic power, while their partner can revel in being penetrated. Many couples with two women also enjoy strap-on play for the powerful penetration it offers, whether wearing a strap-on dildo and harness or a strapless strap-on that both partners can use simultaneously.
23. Wear a Blindfold
Taking away one of your senses is a great way to enhance the others. Wearing a blindfold is an easy entry into bondage and can help you get into the perfect submissive mindset. While you have the blindfold on, your partner can play up the suspense, making you guess what they’re going to do next.
24. Get Tickled
For some people, being tickled is a form of foreplay. Whether they’re tickled by someone’s hands or a tickler sex toy, the squirming feeling induced by tickling is arousing. Erotic tickling isn’t for everyone, but it’s an easy way to mix things up and see if certain spots of your body are ripe for the sensual joy of tickling.
25. Play with Ice
Ice, ice, baby! Ice is an excellent way to try out sensation play. Make sure the ice isn’t going to stick to the skin by holding it in your hands for a few seconds. Then, when the ice is slippery, run it along your partner’s back or between their thighs. For the more daring, run the ice cube along their nipple and watch them shiver. Then, if they’re into it, you can move on to their genitals or drip the ice along their anus.
26. Warm Things Up
Whatever the weather outside, you can warm things up in the bedroom with temperature play! This can involve using a sex toy like a heated vibrator, one that’s designed to gently warm the skin and make you feel even more aroused.
27. Give or Get an Erotic Massage
Giving and getting a massage is another awesome way to get intimate with your partner. Lay down a towel, turn off your phones, put on some sexy music, dim the lights and add some massage oil. Then work your way slowly along your partner’s back (and front!). Experiment and see which places feel the best. You just may discover new erogenous zones that you’ll work into your regular sexual repertoire.
28. Have Phone Sex
Having phone sex is similar to the talking dirty sex bucket list item, but can take on an even more heated element. Because you’re not in the same room as the person you’re having phone sex with, perhaps you’ll feel even more emboldened to share your deepest, most personal fantasies. If you blush or squirm, they won’t know—unless you’re upping the ante and doing a video call.
29. Have a Quickie
We tend to glorify sex that goes on for as long as possible, but a quickie can be totally hot! Whether you’re sneaking in a hot sex session during your lunch hour, rolling around with your partner in the middle of the night, or simply doing it hot and heavy, quickies are fun and leave you plenty of time for all your other favorite activities.
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